This site grew out of lived experience.

I was in a long-term same-sex relationship before marriage equality, and I parented through separation and co-parenting in a legal landscape that offered limited protection. Over time, I came to understand how power, money, and informal agreements shape family outcomes—particularly for the parent who stayed home, relied on shared assurances, or lacked legal standing when a relationship ended.

This is not a site about blame or grievance. It is a space for reflection, pattern recognition, and language—especially for women navigating divorce, mediation, and parenting dynamics shaped by financial disparity or unequal leverage. I write from the long view, with deep respect for how hard people try to do the right thing inside systems that often fall short.

I’m especially mindful of children. Nothing here is written to assign fault or to draw them into adult conflicts. The aim is understanding, not exposure.

If these reflections resonate, you’re not alone.

This site reflects personal experience and perspective. It does not offer legal or clinical advice